My friend Magda reckons that dating is a bit like the stock market. You should never put all your eggs in one basket and spread the risk over lots of options. She is a firm believer that you should date a few guys at the sametime and not close for business until each person says the “l” word. I wondered if she was right? Should we all focus on one date at a time or juggle? Jim aka the boys who is confusing me is a true Sydney juggler. If I am the Single Guy, this guy is the dating guy. On average, Jim is juggling anywhere from 2-3 dates, and that is not counting date call backs. He told me he meets lots and lots of new people. He made the whole juggling thing easy? I am not judging him. I think if you can juggle, go for it. I admire his and Magda's risk aversion.

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I caught up with my friend Larry to hear all about his new boyfriend. They had been dating for over two months and things were going well. Larry’s only concern was Frank’s dating past. It seems that Frank had been somewhat of a player in the past and had been as busy as Arq on a Saturday night. It seemed everywhere they went Frank would bump into an ex boyfriend, an ex lover, an ex partner or all three at once! Larry was not expecting a virgin but would have preferred someone with less mileage. He liked Frank’s vintage sense of style, just did not expect to feel like his boyfriend was a second hand good. Our conversation got me thinking about our dating past: ex lovers, ex boyfriends, ex partners and even ex fuckbuddies. In a city as small as Sydney where everyone’s past lovers are measured in triple digits, can we ever escape our dating past to live in our dating present? And if we do start dating a guy, can we live with their past?

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I got an SOS text message from my friend Barry last night. “I am going to be single for the rest of my life. I am giving up on the whole gay thing. Men are jerks,” he wrote. Had he had a bad date? Was he giving up on cock and going back to women? Or was this a hint that he was horny and wanted to get laid? Barry was sending a Single’s SOS. He was fed up with men in this city and he did not have a blog to vent his frustration and was a sending text message to me (the very Single Guy). I had been there before and had seen lots of other single male friends hitting “rock” single’s bottom. What could I say to Barry? Earlier in the night, I had a similar discussion with my friend Karl, aka the sexual spectrum guy. Karl was lucky in that if he was having trouble with men, he could always switch over to women. He believed that sexuality was like a big colour spectrum and that love should not be about two people or about two genders but about the whole community. Maybe he was right. Maybe this whole gay thing was too much trouble and too restrictive. Was free love was the answer?

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I got thinking about my own experiences with men. I had celebrated seven years in Australia yesterday. Seven years, hundreds of dates, even more shags, therapy, pseudo relationships and even becoming a dating adviser…yet I was no more the wiser when it came to men. I was ready to give up on Sydney men and hope for the best with European ones. If you move to their country, they will come! I wish I could give Barry better advice. “Hang in there,”…. “Do not consider pussyville…” Barry is only 23, so he has a lot of gay living to go….Another blogger recently came out. “Now what?” he asked. Now, begins the hard part…the gay life.

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Forrest Gump once said “Life is like a box of chocolates. You never know what you are going to get.” The same could be said about gay dating. Except you will have to eat lots of chocolates and some of them will make you really sick and may turn you off to chocolates altogether. But remember that in the end everyone loves chocolates. I am not sure if this analogy is helping. I want to feel more optimistic but my cynical mind and experience prevents me from believing it. I do think everyone finds happiness in their own time and in their own place. It is always important to keep things in perspective. Hang in there Barry and feel free to send as many S-O-S messages as you need.

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